As a woman who grew up with a father that wasn’t emotionally available, I’m not ashamed to admit that I’ve dealt with my fair share of daddy issues.
Although my mother raised me to be independent, deep down inside I always craved the love and affection of my father. The feelings of insecurity and the need to constantly seek validation weighed heavily on me growing up. When I became old enough to date, it was a false attraction to men significantly older than me that served to temporarily compensate for the relationship I wanted most.
It wasn’t until my dad started opening up and sharing his feelings with me well into my adulthood that I began to feel as if a new page had been turned and I could finally leave those issues in the past. Funny thing is, it just occurred to me not too long ago that in all my great strides to overcome them and reconnect with my father, I turned right around and subconsciously fell for a man who is indeed, just like him. Emotionally unavailable.
I guess the studies are true:
Men date women like their mothers and women date men like their fathers.
I was just always under the impression that they were only true based on positive experience. But I guess at the end of the day, you can’t help who you love.
SO… seeing as how I thought I had been completely cured of my daddy issues only to have them manifest themselves again in a different manner, that brings me to my question.
Do they ever really go away???
I believe as with most issues, they will always be there. Lying dormant, waiting for an opportunity to re-surface. Therefore, it is up to the individual to remain diligent in their efforts to leave the past behind and continue moving forward. When you are fully aware of your own shortcomings, no one can use them against you and you are better equipped to handle any situation that arises as a result of them.
What are your thoughts???