During a recent homework assignment for my Sociology class, I came across a term that hit home on a personal note.
Serial Monogamy: the practice of having a number of long-term romantic or sexual partners in succession
According to my research, this seems to be the current trend for most singles these days and while I wouldn’t consider myself a serial monogamist, I now realize that I have been dating one for the past couple of years.
Serial monogamists can be faithful partners but when things start getting serious, they have a tendency to convince themselves that something is missing. It’s almost as if a trigger happens and even though the relationship may have all the potential in the world, suddenly they’re over it, over you and it’s off to the races for the next one.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t want a loving and committed relationship. It simply means that there is a deeper issue at hand. In most cases, they are usually holding on to the pain of previous experiences and have a fear of emotional intimacy that prevents them from taking things to the next level.
For someone who is currently involved with a serial monogamist and wants more, I must admit that these revelations left me feeling some type of way. While technically, I am already past the normal expiration date for a typical relationship with a serial monogamist and that does give me some hope that I may be the exception to the rule, the signs are still there. Thanks to my homework assignment, I have now been able to put actual facts to some of my feelings and begin the process of mentally preparing myself for what may very well be, the inevitable between us.