I was always taught to never wait for anyone to make me feel special. Special was something that I had to know I was and feel for myself. While that’s all fine and dandy, the truth of the matter is that every girl wants someone who will make her feel special, especially when she goes out of her way to make others in her life feel the same.
Since my post on Dating The Emotionally Detached, I’ve been in limbo about some decisions that need to be made within my current dating situation. This past weekend, during a visit to the country, I was reminded of the little things and just how much they mean to me.
While visiting with friends, I noticed this little boy looking at me from across the room. Then he approached me while everyone was engaged in conversation and asked what my favorite color was. I told him and he immediately took off to a back room. The next thing I know, he came out and gave me a heart that he’d colored and cut out.
Of course, we all laughed and joked about how much of a ladies man he was and the fact that he didn’t waste any time. In the midst of all of this, he came back in the room and gave me a flower.
I thought all of this was absolutely adorable. At this point, I may have even been blushing a little. His simple, child-like gestures had managed to make my day and remind me of something that I’ve been missing. Those creative and unexpected moments when you know that you are thought of, loved and appreciated.
I’m sure this eleven year old didn’t know what frame of mind he put me in, nor should he care at this age but he definitely gave me something to think about.
As women, we are often expected to go, go and go some more for the men in our lives but they sometimes overlook the small things that will keep us going even when we don’t feel like it. Since I’m not biased, I will also admit that the same can be said from a male’s perspective.
Either way, it’s important that we never take the presence of a significant other in our lives for granted. Do the things necessary to keep them happy and hopefully they will reciprocate the same to you. If you’ve fallen by the wayside, I encourage you to reflect upon the things you did in the beginning to win their hearts and find a way to implement them into your current situation.
As you can tell by my personal account above, a small gesture can go a long way!